A Quick Note about Meeting the Right One


Many of us are eager to relinquish our status as “single” and pick up the crown of marriage but for all the wrong reasons.

I believe marriage is much deeper than updating one’s marital status in the world.  In fact, I believe that meeting the right person is more about finding someone who compliments your purpose more so than it is about encountering lasting love.

To illustrate this principle, let’s consider some of the most noteworthy & powerful couples in society like:

Barack & Michelle

Jay-Z & Beyonce

T.D. Jakes & Serita Jakes

Joel Osteen & Victoria Osteen

Mark Burnett & Roma Downey

…and whoever else you can name.

Individually, each one of these persons possessed a great skill or talent prior to meeting their spouse. Each one was walking in his or her purpose and was flourishing in that area when they met their spouse. When God brought their spouse into the picture, that person merely added to the greatness that he or she already possessed.  They were help-meets like Eve was to Adam (See Genesis 2:18 KJV).

When I think about marriage, I envision my own relationship being much like what I have just described. I don’t envision being with a man who “completes” me, I envision marrying a man who adds value to who I already am as a person.

When God brings along the right person for us, I believe it will be someone who is equipped to run our race beside us.  He or she will have the vision it takes to support our goals, and will have the confidence to speak life into our gifts and talents.

Like the scripture found in Proverbs 27:17, that says “iron sharpens iron,” my future spouse will be the iron that sharpens me; the one who helps to keep me focused; and the one who encourages and motivates me to become a better, sharper version of myself.   As a team, we will be as two knives that can cut through challenges and weather any storm together.

If you want to find someone incredible then practice being incredible while you’re single. We date at the level of our greatness not beneath it.  Therefore, if you know that your character or integrity still needs development in some areas, then use your time of singleness to refine those areas. Become the person you want to meet someday.

Once you’re married, you’ll have the rest of your life to enjoy his or her company but you only get one opportunity to be awesome while single.

Trust me, I’m looking forward to marriage just as much as you. I’m excited about my next relationship being my last relationship however, until that time comes there’s so much that I’ve got to do, learn, and experience as a single person.

Do you have big dreams?  Do you have God-sized goals and desires?  My guess is, yes!  Your dreams alone are an excellent reason to embrace and appreciate your time of singleness.  Therefore, I encourage you to keep those ideas and dreams in front of you.  Meditate on them regularly.  You don’t want to share those precious things with just anyone.  You want to share them with a person whose dreams are big enough to conceive the goals and desires that God has placed in your heart.  God wants to bless you with that kind of man.  He wants to bless you with that kind of woman.  Moreover, He wants your marriage to be a partnership where you all bless each other and flourish together.

Marriage with the right person will be much more glorious than we can imagine.  Until God brings along the right person, be glorious in the pursuit of your gifts, talents and purpose.  Be happy, be patient and pursue your purpose.  You are so worth it!




  • Courtney White
    October 13, 2015

    What a wonderful reminder to not awaken love until it so desires…Song of Solomon 2:7. The time we have now is valuable and we can lay a proper foundation for the future.

    • ErikaTheEncourager
      October 13, 2015

      Perfect scripture to sum this up! So good friend!

  • Roselyn
    October 13, 2015

    As always a great post. You shared such a powerful lesson which if applied will help one see singleness as a time when God has not forgotten you, but rather a season of protection and preparation. I have come to realize that marriage is a gift and God is willing to give “Good Gifts” to His children. If we can shift our focus off the season as a season of waiting but more of a season of order, we are able to see the blessings in that season. A prayer that helps me shift my focus and bring any thought of feeling forgotten into captive when it tries to rise itself against me, is asking God to give me the eyes and the heart to see things the way He wants me to,(He has the power to release any heart, so if there is a hold up, He has a reason for allowing it) and not see things from the natural, thinking something or someone is holding things up. “He has made everything beautiful in its own time” Ecclesiastes 3:11
    The word MADE, is the highlight meaning it’s already done. We just need to trust the process!

    • ErikaTheEncourager
      October 13, 2015

      Rozzy!!! This right here “I have come to realize that marriage is a gift and God is willing to give “Good Gifts” to His children.”=Favorite part! I really never looked at it this way and I love it! I love the way we each receive a different message from God’s word!

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