A Year of Restored Friendships

It brings a smile to my face to see the way God has answered my prayers this year! 


Restored Friendships

I’ve been blessed to see God restore friendships with dear friends on two separate occasions this year. In both instances, I have to admit that I was often leery of God’s ability to restore those relationships because of the way things seemingly ended.  However, today it brings me joy to share that He has done just that! He exceeded my thoughts and restored friendships with two very special people in unthinkable ways!

One relationship took close to ten years to be restored (read about it here), and the other friendship was restored after four years of no contact.  Both relationships seemed to be as dry and barren as desert land.  Nevertheless, I saw God’s hands of healing go to work and restore the fruits of love and peace in those relationships.

Perhaps you’re missing a friend or loved one today because of a disagreement.  If that’s you, I encourage you to surrender the hurt and pain to God.  I encourage you to ask God for guidance and direction, and then be open to the path where He leads you.

We don’t have to live with broken friendships and relationships.  We can see them restored! There’s nothing in this world beyond God’s reach or repair. 

If He did it for me, I know that He can do it for you.

Today’s Prayer: God, you know our hearts and you know our pain.  We confess our faults and we ask for your forgiveness. Today, we surrender our broken places into your hands in exchange for your peace. Come into our hearts and purify our motives.  Minister to our pain and help us to forgive those who have hurt us.  Show us how to love.  Teach us how to forgive without hesitation.  Make today the first day of our best and strongest relationships with those around us.  In the name of Jesus, Amen.

Scripture Reference: 

 “Give us today our daily bread.
12 And forgive us our debts,
    as we also have forgiven our debtors.
13 And lead us not into temptation,
    but deliver us from the evil one.14 For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.”

Matthew 6:11-14

“I will open rivers in high places, and fountains in the midst of the valleys: I will make the wilderness a pool of water, and the dry land springs of water.”

Isaiah 41:18




  • ArtsyBell83
    October 1, 2015

    Super good timing for me to read this because i realize we need both faith and the willingness to forgive and be forgiven in order to achieve that restoration. Some relationships are so broken it would really take a God miracle.

    • ErikaTheEncourager
      October 1, 2015

      You are so right about that! I love that you mentioned willingness too because it’s so real. If we’re not willing, how can we ever expect to see the healing?

  • Anonymous
    October 1, 2015

    Great prayer.

    • ErikaTheEncourager
      October 1, 2015

      Thank you!

  • Roselyn
    October 1, 2015

    There is no heart God can’t penetrate. Sometimes our obedience to intercede for others is what God seeks. In the process not only does intercession for others help us heal but it also sets us free. There are instances when ones heart may be willing and the other may not be ready or willing, however with the desire to intercede through prayer, this helps allow the spirit of the Lord to touch hearts. The heart of kings lies in the Lord’s hands (Proverbs 21:1). The God who is able to harden hearts is the same God who is able to soften hearts. Thanks for this beautiful and encouraging testimony. I am thankful to God for his restoration in your relationships!

    • ErikaTheEncourager
      October 1, 2015

      So good Rozzy! I couldn’t agree with you more! Prayer is the one thing that’s expedient for everyone! It’s impossible to pray without it blessing someone else! So good!

  • mike
    November 24, 2015

    I love your sharing. This is exactly what i am facing in my friendship or relationship with my sister. Great testimony and glory to our Lord! He can fix any thing as he wants saints to be ONE!

    • ErikaTheEncourager
      November 24, 2015

      I just finished sharing this testimony with someone! It’s so cool to know you stumbled across it tonight! I truly believe that he wants us to be whole even in our friendships. I pray that he restores your relationship with your sister!

  • Gabby
    February 18, 2016

    Thank you for sharing this testimony on how God restored your friendships. Prior to reading this, I was also a bit leary that God would restore a drifted friendship that ended without notice. I wondering if I will have to make the first move to talk to her about our friendship, which the thought of that makes me anxious as I fear being rejected and her not responding well. This was a really good relationship centered around the Lord where we encouraged each other. Please keep the restoration of our friendship in your prayers.
    Thank you,

    • ErikaTheEncourager
      March 3, 2016

      Hey sis! I’m so happy to hear that my story encouraged you. As long as you continue to trust God, He’ll lead you and your friendship in the right direction. It sounds like you all had a wonderful friendship so I’ll be praying in agreement with you! Take care!

      • Gabby
        April 14, 2016

        Hey Erika,
        Thank you for your response. My friend and I have not spoken to each other in 4 months. Through prayer, the Lord showed me my heart and where we both went wrong. Finally, this past Saturday, I took the step to go to my friend to ask her for forgiveness for anything I may have done to offend her. Initially, she started off stating that our friend is still good , the same, told me not to take it personal and not to get sensitive. She did use a very hurtful tone and then after I elaborated, she did admitted that I hurt her. Long story short, we both apologized for hurting each other although she did some blame shifting. I left the convo not feeling satisfied and feeling a bit judged and misunderstood as well as not knowing if I should continue to desire connection. I love this friend dearly, but I feel as if she is giving me the cold shoulder over one offense. I don’t understand how she cannot see that she has offended me on more than one occasion but I preserved to pursue walking in love and intercede for her. I never abandoned the friendship although there were several times that I wanted to jump ship. I have given up and don’t feel as if I have faith to believe that God will bring restoration and change her hardened heart. I feel like her love for me is conditional. Although, I’m wounded from her rejection, I am still choosing to forgive her 70×7 as the bible says to do.

        • ErikaTheEncourager
          April 18, 2016

          Hey Sis!
          I think it’s awesome that you took the first step to mend your friendship and apologize. Even though things didn’t go as hoped, guess who walks away with the peace and victory? YOU! Who knows what will happen between the two of you as time marches on but for now, you can rest in knowing that God is pleased with your courage and boldness. You exercised your faith and walked in love to forgive your friend. I know it hurts now but in time, your heart will heal and God will fill that void with love, peace, laughter and joy. I believe that every experience has a purpose…and in time, I believe God will reveal the purpose behind today’s pain. I’ll be praying for you sis! Thanks so much for sharing your experience. You never know who else will read this and be inspired by your story:-)

          • Maria
            September 22, 2016

            I miss a dear friend. We were so close. They struggled when I met my husband and the friendship deteriorated. I’m still sad and have given it to God. I don’t think this person wants to ‘re kindle the friendship.

          • ErikaTheEncourager
            October 26, 2016

            Hi Maria! Have you ever prayed for your friend or talked to God about it? If you all were close, I’m willing to bet that she misses you very much. Good friends can always bounce back even after time apart. 🙂

          • Anonymous
            December 15, 2016

            Thank you, Erika, for your encouragement. Hope you are well. God has been healing my heart regarding the loss of the friendship, yet at times, I still find myself missing this friend and still not understanding the reason for this separation. Thank you, Gabby

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