Calling All Anxious Hearts

33 48So I have to admit that I’ve been feeling a bit anxious about marriage.  I recently traveled to Michigan to visit my family where I received a multitude of questions about whether or not I was still single

For some reason, even strangers seated next to me at my gate in the airport felt compelled to ask me why I wasn’t married yet, as if I’m the one who’s slowing things down…  

Within days of my return to Houston, I found myself joining the bandwagon of anxiety…like yeah God, where is he?”  Funny how the pressure and worry of the world can disrupt your peace, right?    

That uneasy, anxious feeling was so uncomfortable.  My emotions were going in circles and I wasn’t getting any answers.  I was losing my peace thought by thought.  I needed God to give me a sign, a hint, a smoke signal…a something to let me know when it was going to happen.  

Can any ladies relate to this???  

Today’s post is a bit non-traditional.  It’s simply a prayer for the hearts that desire a hubby. Whether you’re young, old, divorced, widowed or single, my hope is that today’s post stirs up the virtue of peace within you, while you wait for God to fulfill the desires of your heart.


The Prayer of An Anxious Heart

My beloved, loving father,

With an anxious heart I confess that I’m a bit antsy about my future love.  I’m eager to meet the suitor that you’ve formed for me.  With anticipation I am excited to learn who he is and where he comes from. At times my eagerness clouds my vision and I begin to lose hope, forgetting that you are the master of time who knows best when to deliver the desires of my heart.   So today, I submit my will and concerns to you in exchange for peace and contentment.

Instead of focusing on my needs, I ask that you attend to the needs and talents of my husband.  Equip him with strength and wisdom. Refine his discernment and fine-tune his decision-making abilities. Reaffirm his purpose and surround him with godly men of influence and of noble character.  Speak to his dreams throughout the day and remind him to be brave in all things.  Give his voice a sound of influence that impacts the world around him.  Give skill to the works of his hands and develop his leadership amongst his family and peers.

If his heart desires creativity, bless him with witty ideas and inventions.  If his mind desires knowledge, bless him with keen insight and understanding.  If his body is in need of strength, bless him with endurance.  If his dreams are in need of encouragement, bless him with perseverance.

Today, I ask that you remove every roadblock that would attempt to delay his progress and growth. Give him the strength to walk away from things and people that would try to hold him back from his calling.

Create in him a passion that craves the extraordinary and spectacular things of God. Renew his eyesight until he sees himself in you.  Stifle any sty of mediocrity.

Bless all of his days with laughter, joy and a merry heart.  Increase him in favor and flourish him in health.

By faith, I call my husband blessed in the city and blessed in the land.  I call him courageous and bold. I call him loving, forgiving and kind.  I call him a servant and a helper.  An encourager who uses his words to build-up and edify others.   Faithful in giving until the end of time. By faith, I ask that you abundantly bless this incredible husband of mine.

Until we meet each other, teach us the patience we need in order to wait for your timing and your will. For I know that your plans are to give us hope, to take care of us, and to give us a future that is brighter than anything we could ever imagine.

In the name of Jesus, I calm my anxious heart.  Amen.


Below, you’ll find a few passages that I like to review when feeling anxious about life’s uncertainties.

A passage on patience for anxious hearts:

Don’t fret or worry. Instead of worrying, pray. Let petitions and praises shape your worries into prayers, letting God know your concerns. Before you know it, a sense of God’s wholeness, everything coming together for good, will come and settle you down. It’s wonderful what happens when Christ displaces worry at the center of your life.” (Philippians 4:6-7) (MSG)

A passage to renew your hope:

“I’ll show up and take care of you as I promised and bring you back home. I know what I’m doing. I have it all planned out—plans to take care of you, not abandon you, plans to give you the future you hope for.” (Jeremiah 29:11) (MSG)

A passage on character for wives in waiting:

There’s more to come: We continue to shout our praise even when we’re hemmed in with troubles, because we know how troubles can develop passionate patience in us, and how that patience in turn forges the tempered steel of virtue, keeping us alert for whatever God will do next. In alert expectancy such as this, we’re never left feeling shortchanged. Quite the contrary—we can’t round up enough containers to hold everything God generously pours into our lives through the Holy Spirit!” (Romans 5:3-5) (MSG)



  • Kailah
    June 17, 2015

    This is beautiful. I was in this anxious space just this past Monday and wrote a prayer of peace. Thank you for this beautiful and timely blog!

    • ErikaTheEncourager
      June 17, 2015

      Thanks so much sis!

  • Ebonie
    June 17, 2015

    Thank you for today’s blog. I can relate wholeheartedly to that anxious space and I’m grateful to know I’m not alone in these feelings. I truly appreciate your candor and transparency. Be blessed!

    • ErikaTheEncourager
      June 17, 2015

      Hey, we can pray through it together sis! You be blessed to beautiful! <3

  • Anonymous
    June 17, 2015

    Amen and amen

  • Christine
    June 17, 2015

    This was truly beautiful and encouraging. Thanks for sharing

    • ErikaTheEncourager
      June 17, 2015

      Thanks so much for that sis!

  • Courtney W
    June 17, 2015

    Amen for this post and your transparency. I think if we are honest many of us waiting on God to provide in this area go from full fledged faith to on the verge of losing hope. It’s a hard struggle but we can be active in our wait. God hears our prayers!

    • ErikaTheEncourager
      June 17, 2015

      So true and so real! We are women so it’s a natural innate to desire companionship and marriage. Sometimes we condemn ourselves for feeling anxious about it and even thinking about it. Rather than making ourselves feel bad, worried or sad, we can just have a real conversation about it with God through prayer. He sees and hears all things, and will attend to the desires of our heart in his timing. That one conversation can be just the thing we need to regain our peace and confidence in Him.

      Thanks so much for sharing your perspective! It’s always good. =)

  • Roselyn
    June 17, 2015

    Great post Erika! And God bless you for your honesty. I also pray that whoever this special man God chooses for you as a spouse, may his love for you be unconditional. I pray that each day of your lives his love will be a reminder to you of God’s love for you in the flesh and your love for him will be a reminder of God’s love for him and as a result has blessed him with you. I pray this scripture over you and him from Proverbs 31:12 “She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.


    • ErikaTheEncourager
      June 17, 2015

      Thanks Rozzy! And please know that I pray the same over you and your husband as well! I also pray that your union causes both of you to excel further in your gifts and callings!

      Love you right back! And I receive that blessing!


  • Anonymous
    June 18, 2015

    Erika, this was amazing. Thank you, this is perfect timing.

    • ErikaTheEncourager
      June 18, 2015

      Thank you so much for reading! I’m so happy that you enjoyed it!

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