I’d be lying if I said that I wasn’t once that girl. You know the one that stresses out, loses her appetite, cries her eyeballs out, and feels like moping around once a relationship ends. That girl was doing wayyyy too much! Thank you Jesus I’m not her anymore!
It took one decision to stop being that girl, and it was the decision to get to know my identity in Christ.
I firmly believe that the key to getting over an ex or a broken heart, is knowing who you are in Christ. When you’re stressed out, sad, lonely and depressed over a boyfriend or girlfriend who left you, it’s an indication that you’ve forgotten your value. Of course, it’s normal to be sad and upset about the end of a relationship but once you begin to question whether you’re enough (i.e. pretty, smart, fun, witty, interesting, small, handsome, wealthy, etc) it’s a problem.
Your identity must start and end with your image in Christ. Christ has to be the foundation of who you are. It must be the only thing that determines how you feel about yourself. You’ve got to walk around all day long reminding yourself of how special you are because you belong to Christ. You’ve got to look in the mirror each day and thank God for making you in His image (Gen. 1:27). You’ve got to thank Him for loving you, and thank Him for loving the parts that you dislike about yourself. Things like this build up a healthy and strong image of who you are in Christ. They also help you to discern the truth from a lie.
The truth about you is that you’re a queen and the daughter of a King (and if you’re a guy, you’re a mighty man of valor). When one door closes, your King has five more with your name on it (Revelations 3:7-8). Each door is adorned in gold and the road behind it is paved with blessings, healing, restoration and favor. When you understand who you are, you won’t stress out over someone who left you. You won’t focus on trying to figure out why he or she left, or even worry about how they were able to make the decision to leave you. Instead, you’ll know that God has positioned you in a better place.
Maybe you’re the still the girl or guy described above. If so, I want to encourage you to take a leap of faith by choosing to believe in God’s Word. Once you’ve done that, I challenge you to take one more step and begin to declare God’s Word once a day. You’ll be amazed at how much stronger, confident, bold and beautiful you’ll begin to feel. The stride in your step will become broader and the hope in your heart will begin to rise. I know, because like I said…I used to be that girl.
Today, I am bold, courageous, strong, healed and restored. I am full of hope. I laugh with confidence and without fear of the future. I do not fear love and I do not feel hopeless. Today, I know exactly who I am in Christ. I know His love will never fail me. I see myself as beautiful. I see who I am in Christ and most of all, I know who I am in Christ.
If you’re searching for healing and restoration, they are available to you. Be encouraged to discover your identity in Christ. Choose to believe the Word of God. Pursue God with all of your heart and reclaim your identity.
Below are a few scriptures that I used to rebuild my self-esteem and to discover my identity in Christ. God bless you =)
- Romans 5:5 “And this hope will not lead to disappointment. For we know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with his love.”
- Romans 12:12 “ Rejoice in our confident hope. Be patient in trouble, and keep on praying.”
- Jeremiah 17:7 “But blessed are those who trust in the Lord and have made the Lord their hope and confidence.”
- Isaiah 61:3 “To all who mourn in Israel, he will give a crown of beauty for ashes, a joyous blessing instead of mourning, festive praise instead of despair. In their righteousness, they will be like great oaks that the Lord has planted for his own glory.”
- Psalm 139:14 “Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it.”