When it comes to having difficult conversations with friends, I dislike it as much as the next guy but as I’ve grown older, I’ve realized that it’s both necessary and inevitable. People are imperfect, and therefore, they are bound to disappoint and annoy us at some point in time during our relationship. Often, when friends, family and co-workers do things to upset us, we ignore the situation and wait for our nerves to calm down, or even worse, we act as though it never happened and carry on day-to-day conversations with tension in the air. Uggghhh, it feels stressful just describing these situations.
At some point in time, we’ve got to be willing to confront those challenging and awkward moments rather than allowing them to rule over our relationships. Earlier this morning, I came across a great post on one of my favorite blogs (Daughters of The King) that discusses how to handle difficult conversations with those we care about most. The solution is simple: be open & be honest. =)
As you read it, I hope it encourages and help you to navigate through some of those difficult moments with friends and family.
“Lying lips are an abomination to the Lord, but those who deal truthfully are His delight.” Proverbs 12:22 (NKJV)
One day my daughter came to me and said, “Mommy I broke up with a friend today.” Then she began to explain that a girl lies to her at school and doesn’t sincerely apologize for what she does. “Do you hate this girl?” I asked. “No I don’t hate her. I just don’t want to be her friend right now.”
The sin and character flaw of lying can ruin any relationship, whether in marriage, family, friendships or in the workplace. It can eat away at the fabric that knit two people together, no matter how strong that fabric was. If you value the relationships God has placed in your life, be open and be honest. Don’t cover up how you really feel to protect yourself. Don’t make promises you can’t afford to keep. Don’t tell a lie a day to keep the stress away.
If dishonesty has destroyed your relationship, only honesty can help mend it. “Those who deal truthfully are My delight.” God says. He delights and takes pleasure in us when we are honest with ourselves, honest with others and when we earn an honest living. The people that love you when you are honest are the ones you want to keep around. Be encouraged on your spiritual journey with the Lord and let His wonderful Word instruct you in His ways of doing things.
Prayer: Father God, thank You for helping me get better and better. Anytime You shine Your light on sin in my life, it is because you want to help me get rid of it and grow into the image of Christ. Forgive my sin of lying. Help me be open and honest. Thank You for showing me Your way of doing things. I seek You first, Your kingdom and Your righteousness, and I know You will add to me what You want me to have in life. In Jesus name, Amen.
(Read Proverbs 8:7-9; James 1:17)