The Best “I Do” Happens When You’re SINGLE…

The Best “I Do” happens when you’re SINGLE…

  Saying I Do-And-Being-Single

  • Personal Goals
  • Career Goals
  • Weight-loss goals
  • Dreams
  • Career Aspirations
  • Bucket Lists
  • To-Do Lists
  • Checklists
  • Desires

Who holds your trust regarding these things?  Is it a person, a job, a company, a location?

Who are you counting on?  Who has your hope while waiting for these things to come to pass?

One of the greatest lessons I’m learning as a single is how to develop my confidence, faith and trust in God. I mean like absolute abandonment of faith in man and things, and complete trust and faith in God for everything.

In the past, my faith and trust for God to bring the man of my dreams into my life was dependent upon how great the current guy was.  I would compare the current guy to the past guy, and think “oh wow, God this could be the one because he’s better than those other guys.”  Each time a new guy had one quality greater than the old guy, I assumed it was God’s way of giving me His best. Crazy, right?

The entire time, I’d be walking around feeling so confident and full of faith because of what I could see with my natural eyes.  Not once did I stop to ask if God saw the same thing as me.  I never said “hey God, I love this guy. I think we could have a future together. Is this who you want for me?”  It’s not that I didn’t think God’s thoughts mattered, it’s really that I didn’t have enough faith and trust to handle God telling me “no, he is not the one. I have better.”

Like the old saying goes “you learn how to do things the right way after you hit your head a few times” and that’s exactly what happened.  I experienced heartbreak enough times from not having enough faith to believe that God had a better plan, and I learned how to trust Him.   Today, I try my best to consult God and at least pray before making decisions that affect my life (career, love life, friendships, etc).   I do this, not because of fear but, because I know that trusting God is the best decision that I could ever make for my life.

I now realize that responding with “yes” when God says “I know that you want that now Erika but my plan is better, do you trust me?”… is the best “I Do” that I can ever say as a single.

Do you want the spouse of your dreams?

Do you want the home of your dreams?

Do you want the bank account of your dreams?

Do you want the career of your dreams?

Do you want the car of your dreams?

Do you want your business to soar?

If you answered yes to these questions, start saying “I Do” to the right things now. Everything you want in the future depends on what you say “yes” and “I do” to today.

  • If you want a big bank account, are you tithing and saving your money or are you blowing it?
  • If you want your dream job are you being diligent on your current job and honoring your boss or, are you showing up late and doing whatever you feel?
  • If you want the spouse of your dreams, are you consulting God now?  Are you asking Him for guidance in your current relationship or, are you dating a person just because they appear to be better than all of the other men or women you’ve dated previously?

The greatest “yes” and the greatest “I do” occur when you are single.  What you say “yes” to as a single determines what you will have when married.  Imagine what God could give you on your wedding day if you said no “I won’t settle for one night of passion because I’m lonely” and instead said, “yes God, I’ll break off this relationship because it’s pulling me away from you.”  If we develop the faith to trust in Him alone now, He could give us the “I Do” of our dreams on our special day.

Saying “I Do” as single won’t always be easy but living the life your dreams with the spouse of your dreams is definitely worth it.

Learn to trust God and develop the faith to say “I do” even when you don’t feel like it. Your future, your future spouse and your future life will thank you for it.

Scripture: But those who wait for the Lord [who expect, look for, and hope in Him] shall change and renew their strength and power; they shall lift their wings and mount up × as eagles [mount up to the sun]; they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint or become tired.”  Isaiah 40:31

Prayer: Dear God, bless us with the strength to wait for you and move our hearts to respond in faith with “I Do.”






  • Roselyn
    May 15, 2014

    I love love this post so revealing and honest. Sometimes putting all our trust in God knowing clearly that he tells us he has a plan for our lives can be a difficult thing to do. We are sometimes very stubborn and constantly want to have control of the occurrences in our lives, hence we don’t allow ourselves to rely on God not because we don’t know who he is, but because we don’t know how his plans will play out.A scripture that has been helping me allow God lead is Isaiah 1: 18″Come now, and let us reason together, saith the LORD: though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool.” He is calling on us to reason with him and consult him in our decisions; yet we shun away from him and use our earthly wisdom. Isaiah 40: 11 ” He shall feed his flock like a shepherd: he shall gather the lambs with his arm, and carry them in his bosom, and shall gently lead those that are with young.”May he help us all so we can surrender and present all our plan and course to him so he can lead us like a Shepherd leads his flocks!!!

    • ErikaTheEncourager
      May 15, 2014

      Rozzy! It’s so ironic or should I say “God-ronic” that you shared that scripture! Our worship team sung a song with those verses a few weeks ago and it instantly spoke to my heart! “though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool.” I love this scripture because it just describes the way God makes us our lives and our hearts as new the moment we give our heart to him.

      #iDo =)

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