Lessons I Learned In 2013: Silence From God Means Wait

Photo Credit: Thomas Leuthard Title: "Enjoy The Silence..." Photo Content: Erika Glenn Details: This photo was obtained from the "Backgrounds" application for Android.

Photo Credit: Thomas Leuthard
Title: “Enjoy The Silence…”
Photo Content: Erika Glenn
Details: This photo was obtained from the “Backgrounds” application for Android.

Proverbs 19:2 says “enthusiasm without knowledge is no good; haste makes mistakes.”  This verse had the greatest impact in the area of my relationships this year.  For me, this scripture says “don’t rush into relationships.  Take your time and wait on God.”  

When dating, (especially in Christian dating) it’s so easy to daydream about the possibilities  when we meet someone who appears to have similar Christian values and morals.  We think to ourselves “OMG, this guy/girl is perfect! They are beautiful, God-fearing, kind-hearted and they attend church. I think this might be the one” lol!  In times like this when excitement is high and everything seems perfect, God beckons our heart and spirit to slow down.

God desires that nothing and no one remove our peace. Therefore, He encourages us to take our time and be intentional about maintaining His presence in our dating relationships.  Philippians 4:6-7 says “be anxious for nothing but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”  God knows that anxiety can cause us to overlook important details about a person/relationship and therefore, He encourages us to take things slow.  Hindsight may be 20/20, but God’s insight is priceless.

The Importance of Listening

Often times we do a make a conscious effort to pray for God’s wisdom and guidance regarding a person but we don’t always give ourselves an opportunity to hear from God.  We are so busy telling God what we desire, and so busy praying about what we want, that we forget to make time to listen.  In the haste of our busyness we neglect the need to listen and our haste leads to mistakes (Prov. 19:2).

The only way to receive instruction is to listen for it.  We have to allow ourselves to be quieted so that we can hear where God wants to take us and what He wants us to do.  If you ask a friend for directions, you wouldn’t talk over him/her while guiding you.  Similarly, it is not wise for us to continue moving forward in a relationship while praying for God’s guidance.  Instead, we must take a step back, and be patient in our prayer life until God reveals the next step for the relationship.  We must give God an opportunity to respond to our prayer request(s) and be still until He does so.

Though it often feels inconvenient to wait for God’s response, His request to wait is only for our protection.  As a single, God does not want you to be harmed or hurt.  He wants your heart to be whole so that you can love and care for your spouse when the time is right. Therefore, the best way to maintain a heart that is whole is to have an attitude of patience that does not move in haste.

Waiting Provides Revelation

Waiting is beneficial because it gives God an opportunity to work on qualities in the person you are dating, as well as qualities within you.  How many times have you dated someone and thought “man, I had no idea this person was so selfish, inconsistent, insecure, etc…”?  While you may not have known, God knew and because of that, He wanted you to give the relationship a bit more time to grow so that He could grow inside of the other person.  Another benefit of waiting is that it gives God an opportunity to reveal things about a person’s character.  Enthusiasm and excitement often cause us to overlook harmful character traits but patience reveals them.  When you wait for God’s instruction, His wisdom will identify those areas for you and He will provide you with instruction on how to handle them.

Our happiness and joy mean more to God than we’ll ever know but His desire for our wisdom exceeds those things, because following His wisdom will always bring us joy (Prov. 4:7). Patience and peace have been two of the biggest and most impactful lessons in my life this year.  I never imagined that I would receive so much peace and joy from waiting but I did, and I am so thankful for the blessing.  In reading today’s post, it is my hope that you too will learn to wait and learn to be content with waiting.

When we are intentional about keeping God at the center of everything in our lives, we receive the blessing of God’s wisdom and instruction.  An old saying, says that “silence is golden.”  So as I close, my saying is “if you want a life that’s golden, learn to be patient by waiting on God.”

Allow God to be your guide in your dating relationships, and allow Him to order your steps before going deeper in your relationships.  When you do this, God promises to honor your patience and He promises to give you the desires of your heart (Psalm 37:4).

Happy Friday! =)


  • Tiffani Moncrief
    December 27, 2013

    I’m so proud and thankful for you!!! It’s so amazing to see the beautiful talent that the Lord has blessed you with! Please continue to bless us each and every day 🙂

    • ErikaTheEncourager
      December 27, 2013

      Tiffani! Thank you so much! You are always so supportive and encouraging and it really means a lot to me. Friends like you gave me the nudge I needed to step out on faith and launch my blog. Thank for every word of encouragement my friend! I appreciate you so very much! I am blessed because of friends like you. =)

  • challenyee
    December 27, 2013

    Erika, you are so right on in gaining God’s wisdom through our relationships and the value of how God reveals in time. A friend of mine once told me, if it wasn’t for time, everything would happen in one moment! Thank God that is not the case, He gives us time to catch up and catch on when we are listening!

    • ErikaTheEncourager
      December 27, 2013

      Wow! I really like that saying! It’s so true and it really puts things into perspective. In the excitement of things, we think that we want everything to happen at once but if we take a step back to process everything, we’ll understand that time and patience are truly best for us. Like you said, thank God for time. If everything happened all at once, we would miss out on so many valuable lessons. We would miss opportunities like this to connect and learn from one another through blogs. We would miss out on life, and all that God has to offer. Thanks for that message my friend! I really liked it!

  • Roselyn
    December 27, 2013

    Amen and amen to your message delivered to us today. God really does talk to us yet we are so busy focusing on what we want we don’t allow him to do as he pleases. It’s amazing how patience is such a vital element in our path with God and our lives. I have been encouraged to take moments to be in silence and attentive to God’s directions. Thank you for this message it was very deep and one which if we can apply will be of great benefit in our walk with God!!!

    • ErikaTheEncourager
      December 28, 2013

      Silence is a powerful tool to get someone’s attention. Ironically, it’s also powerful when God wants to get our attention. Learning to accept and navigate through the silence are the challenge but each time we choose to be patient, it gets a little easier =)

      Happy Saturday Roz!!!

  • C.Hill
    December 28, 2013

    I had a hard discourage day yesterday, tears I cried and reading this helps me to remain faithful and wait. About a year ago God saw how broken hearted I was and answered my prayers in my dream just like asked him to reveal my husband in my dream. Funny part the man he showed me I knew for years but never paid attention to. God never told me this guy was in a relationship and wants to propose soon to his gf. So much discouragement but your post over the year come in at the right time. I will never forget when you said God won’t give your reward to anyone else. Thank you!

    • ErikaTheEncourager
      December 28, 2013

      I can feel your pain while reading your post but I can also see so much of God’s peace, love and restoration. It hurts when our hearts feel broken and when others let us down. I too experienced unexpected heartbreak three months ago but I learned so much about God’s faithfulness during that time, that I feel like a completely different person today. My spirit feels so renewed and he’s constantly restoring my heart in the areas where it was hurt and bruised. In reading your comment, the blessing I saw is that God allowed the character of the man you loved to be revealed to you before entering a new year. He did not allow you to carry what was dead into what will be new. He loves you so much that He cut off what was harmful before it harmed your future. Reading your post has been so encouraging to me because it reminds me of God’s faithfulness. Now that you have shared your experience, someone else can read about your journey and can be encouraged. God is using you even in the midst of your pain. That’s how faithful He is and that’s how much He loves you. God knows every single desire of your heart. He created your heart and He custom-built it with the capacity to carry what He has in store for you. Though it’s in still storage, be encouraged to know that He is perfecting it like a fine wine and when the time is right, He will give it to you and you will see how today’s disappointment was for that day’s joy. =) I love you Cherie and I will be praying for you. It’s kind of corny but I was once heard “you can’t have disappointment without the word ointment.” In the midst of your disappointment, God is healing and restoring you with His ointment of love. <3

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